Weddings, witness the joining of two lovers, a magical time, right? You never think when your sitting in the pews at the church, or when your dancing your butt off, who or what all went into this to make it this cool or nice. Nope, probably not, you're probably more worried about the salad being, funky tasting, or trying to hook up with that cute guy or girl across the way. But you never really realize how terrible the job of being the maid of honor is until you're her. That's when the drama kicks in.
Day one on the job is the easiest, by far, the excitement of a sibling or good friend is engaged, yay, moving on. Day two, hell sets it's sights on you. First you're asked to go with the bride to pick out colors for the wedding and bridesmaids dresses, this I was lucky enough to miss out on. I could only imagine how painstakingly boring this could have been. Next comes choosing the style of dresses for the bridesmaids, rules given, floor length, and make sure no cleavage, because a fat bride has to have a lot of fat friends, thankfully I am not one. So you know how hard it is to find a pretty dress like that? Hard, and so what are you left with an ugly champagne coloured dress with pleats in the boob area, not even close to flattering. But you suck it up and get fitted for it.
Then next comes the jewelry for the bridesmaids. Do you think the bride would pick it out? Nope all you, the maid of honor's job, First you need matching earrings and a necklace, and then a bracelet. These items of jewelry are meant to be gifts from the bride, when in fact the money to purchase these comes from the maid of honor. How lovely, now you're out over $125 dollars due to purchasing all the bridesmaids and yourselves jewelry. Shoes follow suit, everyone bought their own but, you'll always have that one dumb bridesmaid who will miss the sale and wont buy the shoes, so up until the last minute you're searching desperately for shoes for her to make up. The end result is that you give her your shoes that you planned to wear and go out and get different shoes for yourself. Then the bride turns into bridezilla about you having different shoes, lovely.
And Since you are the maid of honor, you get the taste of printing out the thank you gift bags, and printing the programs. And she hates your program idea and rants hate, and deletes you off facebook and tells you not to talk to her til the day of the wedding. Classy Peg.
And yet the big day is 72 hours away now? And I plan on leaving the reception early, due to this new found dislike for my sister, the Bride.
Dear Paintmesimple: Honey you've been had -- your sister used you every step of the way. I've never EVER heard of the maid of honor even picking out the jewelry let alone PAYING for it. (Jewelry at a wedding is extremely limited (never heard of bracelets, but every one is different). And the Bride is usually the one with the nicest necklace;bridesmaids something very simple. If the Bride expects her bridesmaids to wear jewelry,I've seen payment both ways. BUT if the jewelry is the thank you gift from the Bride to her bridesmaids and the Maid of Honor, SHE pays for it (she's the one giving the gift.) She didn't even care enough about her friends to put her own time and care in picking out something lovely as a thank you. AND SHE GOT THE CREDIT FOR THE GIFT NOT YOU. It is not your responsibility to see that all the girls get their shoes;it's the girl's or the Bride's responsibility, NOT YOU. The couple do the wording and format of the program. ALL the details are decided by the Bride(and sometimes the Groom takes an interest) in terms of gift bags (bags??)the color scheme, cake, etc. Unless your mother is no longer around, she and your sister do a lot of the planning together too and she helps with the shopping for all the "stuff", etc. I'm a very young 60 and have been a maid of honor many times, and I personally have NEVER heard of all these responsibilities left up to the Maid of Honor. Usually, you deal with the train and holding the bouquet (lots to do with that train -- make it pretty at all times and hold it out of the way while she's in the bathroom.)Your sister is the Bride NOT a princess with a lady in waiting. Ask her if she wants you to do a test run in bed with her fiance before the big day just to make sure he's worth it and see what she says!!LOL I just realized that this wedding was in early September and hopefully you've reconciled your differences. I came upon your post as I was doing research for my best friend whose daughter is getting married on 10/24. My friend had just called me in tears because she just had a HUGE fight with her daughter and perhaps that's why I'm so passionate in this comment. I just wanted to validate YOUR experience and let you know your sister did not do right by you.
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